The law of attraction is there whether you understand it or not. It always responds and gives accurate results to match what you predominantly think about.
The Art of Allowing requires that you are consciously aware of the way you feel so that you choose the direction of your thoughts.
This determines whether you create intentionally or by default. If you go about your day always thinking the same negative thoughts you have always thought and not paying attention to how they are making you feel, you will always attract by default. When you start to take notice of your feelings and direct your thoughts in a different direction, you are deliberately creating.
Emotional Guidance System
It’s about using your emotional guidance system to determine the direction of your thoughts.
You are the inviter, the creator and the attractor of all things that come to you. Once you learn to understand this and learn to control your thoughts, you will have deliberate control of your own life experience.
When you get up and something goes wrong you perceive it as a bad day and then it seems as if everything goes wrong. But when you wake up in the morning feeling good, you have a happier day.
When you think of something that displeases you, it attracts more thoughts of things that displease you. When you think of something that pleases you, it attracts more thoughts of things that please you.
Thoughts Gain Power
The more thoughts you have, negative or positive, the more they gain power.
- Those who speak more of having money, have it.
- Those who speak more of being in debt are always in debt.
Same goes for illness. Have you noticed that people who always speak of being ill are always attracting more illness? Whatever you think about you attract and the more you think about it, the more you attract it.
If you see yourself as a magnet, whatever you speak about is drawn to you and the more this gains power, the bigger the feeling.
- If you feel lonely, you will attract more loneliness.
- If you feel poor, you will attract more feeling poor.
Monitoring Thoughts is Not Easy
However, monitoring your thoughts is not easy. As well as being a physical being, there is a part of you, your inner being that is wiser and communicates with you. This can be called your intuition and can often be a clear vivid thought, a gut feeling.
Not everyone hears that inner being though so it is best to communicate through our feelings.
Now you either feel good or you feel bad.
- If you feel bad it means that you are speaking or thinking something that is not in alignment/in harmony with your inner being, your core self, your higher self, your soul, whatever you want to call it.
- When you are feeling good, it indicates that you are speaking or saying something that is in harmony with your inner being.
Focus on Your Feelings
So it is much easier to focus on your feelings than to try and monitor all your thoughts. If you are feeling bad, simply trying thinking of something that makes you feel good.
The art of allowing also means the you are what you are and that you allow all others to be what they are.
This leads you to total freedom – freedom from any experience that you do not want and freedom from any negative response to any experience that you do not approve of.
One saying which I have always held dear is
“I can’t change them but I can change me”.
In other words you cannot change other people’s behaviour towards you, you can only change the way you respond to it.
Feeling your own inner peace and being able to walk away and not respond means that you are totally free from anyone else’s life experience affecting yours and once you master this you will feel that total freedom.
Another way thinking of it is the age old saying “Live and let live” or one of my favourites “Each to their own”. Recognise that they are living their life experience and you are living yours and you and only you can change how things affect you.
This does not mean that you tolerate them for tolerating is a negative emotion. Rather you just acknowledge they are creating whatever they create in their world from their negative words or actions and you, by simply walking away and focussing on creating a better life experience for yourself is exercising the art of allowing.
Another saying I also hold dear is
“Whatever anyone thinks of me if none of my business”.
It really isn’t if you just focus on what you create for yourself with your words and thoughts. No one else can change your thinking or emotions unless you let them. Think of it as putting yourself in a huge bubble of protection. Anything negative bounces back off the bubble and we all know where things go that bounce back.
Also, think about how you speak to people who are feeling low or ill. If you see someone in poverty or illness with pity and sympathy, you are speaking about what they don’t want and you will feel the negative emotion of it.
If you see friends who are in debt try to see them as really wealthy and if they are ill see them as well and healthy. When you focus on their illness, you feel bad, when you focus on their recovery you feel good and it helps them by sending them positive thoughts as well.
By focussing on their wellbeing, you allow your connection to your inner being. You uplift others by recognising that what they have is not what they want. You uplift them through your own personal example. As you are healthy, you may stimulate their desire for health. If you are prosperous, you stimulate their desire for prosperity. Let what is in your heart uplift them.
When you can look into the world and allow joy all the time, you are an allower. When you know which experiences contain joy and which do not and you have the discipline to participate only where there is joy, you will have achieved allowing.
If you watch the news you will be bombarded with things that go on in the world that you do not want. You did not choose to think about them. It was not deliberate but it gives you negative feelings which attract more negative thoughts and creates more things for you to feel negative about.
That is what creating by default is – giving thought to something without being deliberate about it.
This doesn’t mean you don’t care when bad things happen to people. Yes feel loved and compassion and maybe sadness for a short while and then send them lots of love and blessings and move on. You do more good for the world by spreading love and light than focussing on sadness and fear. As I have said before, this is why I don’t watch the news but I do take part in sending love and light to the planet with fellow Reiki practitioners.
The Difference Between Wanting & Needing
When you are focussing on something you want, your inner being gives you a positive emotion. When you are focusing on something you need, your inner being gives you a negative emotion. You are then focussed on the lack of not having what you want.
Focussing on a problem gives you a negative emotion, focussing on a solution gives you a positive one.
Contentment comes from wanting, then allowing and then receiving.
As you go through life and focus on what you do want, the law of attraction brings more and more of that to you each and every day, with events, circumstances and other beings that are compatible to your life experiences and your life spirals upwards to joy and freedom.
Allowing means that rather than trying to get the world to do the things that you like, it is much better to put yourself into the position of accepting that everyone has the right to be, do or have whatever they want and that you, through the power of your thoughts, will attract only unto you that which is in harmony with you.
If you see someone doing something that you do not like you must think “They are what they are. They are the creators of their own life experience attracting unto themselves. I am the creator of my own life experience attracting unto me.
State that to yourself again and again and you will soon realise that they are not messing up your world. they are creating their own world and to them that might not seem messed up.
That which you give your attention to, particularly your emotional attention is that which you draw into your own experience.
Likewise, if others see something in you that they disapprove of, it is not your lack it is theirs. It is their inability to be an allower.
Expecting vs Not Expecting
As you give emotion to your thoughts you launch your creation. If you then expect it, it manifests into your experience.
If you give something you want emotional thought but then you DON’T expect it, it won’t happen.
For example, if you saw a scary movie, you might be really emotional whilst you are watching it but then you think, “It’s only a movie, that won’t happen to me” so you stop it’s creation into your experience.
When you ask for what you want and put emotional feeling behind it, make sure that you expect it to arrive. If you start to worry or wonder why it hasn’t shown up yet, turn your focus to something else that makes you happy and raises your vibration. Often, it is when you forget about something that you show that you trust it will show up and it materialises. Use your feelings as your inner compass to guide you to the life of your dreams and you will not go wrong.
Love, Blessings & Abundance!
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