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BLOG by Jan Taylor – January 2015

I’ve been thinking a lot this week about all the friends I’ve had in my life from whom I have drifted apart from over time. There’s that old saying like the one in my poster “People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime”. I have to admit, when I find a good friend, it always hurts me when I think I have lost them or we have drifted apart. I wonder if I’ve done something wrong or said something wrong when the simple truth is possibly that they are not meant to be in your life any longer. Maybe you have taught each other lessons that you needed to learn in this lifetime, maybe they were meant to be with you at your time of need and they need to move on to help someone else now. Whatever it is, I am always grateful now for the love and laughter that we shared, however long or short it may have been. If someone is meant to be in your life for a lifetime, your paths will cross again.

Every friend I have ever had has a special place in my heart and always will do. Even the ones from which, I have, unfortunately, parted on bad terms with. It is heart-breaking when you lose someone you love. It is grief whether they have passed or whether they are just not in your life anymore. Since being a reiki practitioner, I have learnt to send love and compassion to everyone that hurts me as they may not even realise that they have. I trust that we are all learning our own lessons and doing the very best we can to love one another. No one is perfect and we all have to learn to forgive others but, most of all, to forgive ourselves which brings me onto the topic for the next newsletter; forgiveness.

For now, I will leave you all with the lovely poem for which the author is unknown and to all my past friends out there, I send you my love and ask for forgiveness if I have hurt you in any way but more than anything I forgive myself and I am grateful for the lessons I have learnt along the way. It’s OK to shed a few tears however you lose someone. Over time you have more and more fond memories of the love and laughter you shared together. It’s not how much time we spend with people that matters but how they touch our lives and the love we share.

Lots of Love and blessing to you all, particularly those of you who have lost loved ones who have passed

Namaste, Jan xxx

Indigo Soul

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.

When you figure out which one it is,

you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON,

it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.

They have come to assist you through a difficulty;

to provide you with guidance and support;

to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.

They may seem like a godsend, and they are.

They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,

this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.

Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.

Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.

What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.

The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON,

because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.

They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.

They may teach you something you have never done.

They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.

Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;

things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.

Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,

and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.

It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. 

— Unknown

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  1. Hey there! This is my 1st comment here so I just wanted to give a quick shout out and say I really enjoy reading your posts. Can you recommend any other blogs/websites/forums that cover the same topics? Many thanks!|

  2. Hi excellent website! Does running a blog like this take a massive amount work?
    I have very little understanding of programming but I had been hoping to start my own blog in the near future.

    Anyway, if you have any suggestions or tips for new blog owners please share.

    I know this is off subject however I just needed to ask. Thanks
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    • Jan Taylor says:

      Hi! No it’s really easy to do with a wordpress site. You just click on new post and write it as pretty much as you would a normal document then just publish at the end. I would share sharing your knowledge is a good place to start if you cannot think of anything to write about life experiences

  3. Sharon Morgan says:

    Beautiful blog Jan and as my much loved everlasting friend I wanted to say I love now and eternity honey we have shared an awesome past present and future and you are an amazing lifelong friend in my life definitely for the one haul. I’m blessed to have you in my life and always will be. You are doing an amazing job healing others now passing on your learnings to others I commend you and your work. Your unconditional love knows no end. My special friend Jan ❤

    • Jan Taylor says:

      Awwww Sharon that’s lovely and the feeling is mutual. Blessed to have you in my life too. You have and always will be more like family. Love you and I will be grateful to you for eternity for giving me The Secret for my birthday. Here’s to us racing each other down the street on our scooters my lifelong friend! Loads of Love always, Jan xxx

  4. Cindy Fox says:

    Appreciate what you’ve shared. I appreciate those who have been in my life and gone for whatever reason.
    I acknowledge the place they will always have in my heart!

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